“She” is the mom you watch from a distance… and you secretly wish you were more like her. She’s the Fun Mom, the one who does messy art projects with her kids (with glitter, no less!) and drops everything to spontaneously lie in the grass and watch the clouds with her children. Her motto is “it’s all good” and “we’ll figure it out when we get there.” While you don’t relate to her parenting style, it would be nice to go through life without obsessing about the checklists and details that are always in the forefront of your mind. Of course, the upside of being a Type A mom is that you’re never staring into the refrigerator at 4:30pm wondering what you are going to make for dinner tonight, and nobody in your family ever lacks for clean underwear.
Isn’t it amazing that God has created every mother differently? And yet we all have the same purpose as moms – to raise our children to know and love God. Or, as the first question of the Westminster Catechism puts it so succinctly: “…to glorify God and enjoy Him forever.” When I first became a mother, I put a lot of “shoulds” on myself – I should be more spontaneous, I should be happy spending every waking hour with my child, etc. But recently, I have come to believe that God wants us to operate from our strengths rather than obsess over the gifts that He has chosen not to give us.
I just discovered a fantastic book called MotherStyles: Using Personality Type to Discover your Parenting Strengths by Janet Penley. Based on the Myers-Briggs personality types, the premise of the book is that all parenting styles are different, but you can learn about your strengths and weaknesses as a mom based on your Myers-Briggs type. For example, the ESTP (Extroverted, Sensing, Thinking, Perceiving) mom is dubbed “The Action-Adventure Mother.” She is great at being flexible, getting actively involved in what her kids are doing, and encouraging her children to explore the world. The INTP (Introverted, Intuitive, Thinking, Perceiving) mother is the “Love-of-Learning Mother” who helps her child develop intellectually and instills a love of learning by fostering their natural curiosity.
I highly recommend this book to all moms – we live in a culture of comparisons, and there is freedom in the knowledge that we are each uniquely gifted to raise amazing children because of our innate strengths. Oh, and by the way – even though I am the “Type A” mom, I do plan on doing messy, crazy glitter crafts with my kids. It’s Item #18 on my “Summer Fun” list.
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